• Caroline Ruivo

Something you may never know

Have you ever witnessed someone bragging about how amazing, bright and intelligent they are? Chances are you were most likely listening to a narcissist in action. Well, social psychologists have now discovered a new type of narcissism you also might recognize: The Communal Narcissist.

These individuals will most likely be dressed impeccably and record themselves on Instagram as they feed the homeless, donate money to charity, and attend fundraising initiatives. Their intention is not necessarily to help others, but to be seen helping others.

Granted, there is a time and place to promote a fundraiser to raise as many funds as possible and social media can certainly be an excellent platform to do so. Nevertheless, it can be argued that it may be more beautiful to give generously without anyone else knowing about it.

For example, when we walk past someone who is homeless and discreetly leave a fifty-dollar bill in their bucket hat or offer to help a person who is struggling to carry their groceries home, we are living out an act of altruism that may be more genuine, authentic, and compassionate.

Maybe every good deed should not be recognized because this helps to keep our intentions pure. You may never know how one small act of kindness could impact a person's life and you may never know how much it meant to them.

Reflection Question: What is one small act of kindness you could do today (without the world knowing about it)?

Photo by Teona Swift

"So when you give something to a needy person, do not make a big show of it, as the hypocrites do in the houses of worship and on the streets. They do it so that people will praise them. I assure you, they have already been paid in full. But when you help a needy person, do it in such a way that even your closest friend will not know about it. Then it will be a private matter. And your Father, who sees what you do in private, will reward you."

― Matthew 6:2-4 (GNT)