• Caroline Ruivo

When envy becomes empathy


With the proliferation of social media, we are all finding ourselves on this "high" of proving to others that we are living an exciting, envious life. Instagram and Facebook are excellent tools to focus on beauty in our everyday lives because they encourage us to seek opportunities for picture-worthy moments.


On the other hand, have you noticed this perfectionism has trickled into our relationships? We are becoming more inclined to describe our lives in a perfect, squeaky clean manner as opposed to a raw, authentic one. We used to cry to our friends and now we might brag about details that are either partially or completely fabricated.


We even might compare our inner turmoil with other people's display of flashy exuberance: While we have a shirt covered in baby food and a kitchen table piled with letters of financial debt, others are experiencing wild stories of intimacy with no responsibility. Free as birds.


Honestly, we need to stop comparing ourselves if we want to truly be happy but we also need to be more genuine about our current situations. Are we foolishly overlooking the beauty in our own lives as we focus on what other people have?


If you have time, I encourage you to watch this short film called "The Neighbors' Window" that was written and directed by Academy Award-winning filmmaker Marshall Curry (below).


Disclaimer: This video is for mature audiences only and may be sensitive to some viewers.

Photo by Mathias P.R. Reding


Written, directed & edited by: Marshall Curry / Starring: Maria Dizzia, Greg Keller, and Juliana Canfield / Produced by: Jonathan Olson & Julia Kennelly / Executive Produced by: Elizabeth Martin / Director of Photography: Wolfgang Held / Music by: James Baxter & The National