• Caroline Ruivo

When you know better


When we feel overly stressed or worried, it's natural to be harsh or critical towards ourselves. It's tempting to look at our life choices in retrospect and choose specific moments in our lives when we wish we made different decisions.


The truth is, whenever we are faced with a difficult choice in life we must decide how to respond based on our own understanding of the situation we are in. This means there are many different ways to choose how to respond to any specific situation.


All of us are going through life for the first time and even though we can read 101 self-help books or listen to podcasts in our best attempts to never make a mistake, we all know this is not possible. As Maya Angelou said, "Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better."


Wisdom is healed pain.


At some point, all of us have failed miserably, even multiple times. But instead of being self-critical, why don't we give ourselves the same compassionate response that we would give a friend or family member who we really love? Why are we so understanding towards others but so harsh towards ourselves?


Reflection Question: If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or worried, what would you say to a friend who was going through the exact same situation?

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